"Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance." - Confucius

During everyday conversation or discussion, instead of learning new viewpoints, we are oftentimes thinking of responses or counterproposals while the other is still speaking. We are too busy trying to convince or persuade the other, or, whilst talking, too busy trying to flatter ourselves that we’re not having a conversation at all. Both conversationalists are busy with their own thoughts. Because of this, we are essentially neglecting the opportunity to gain knowledge by trying to come off as knowledgeable, or even worse, by trying to be "right".

Being open-minded is a popular and positive attitude that helps in conversation. It attempts to set aside your own beliefs and ego to, instead, be fully engaged in the other’s ideas and perspectives. However, we seldom think of ourselves as ignorant, and are often fast to believe to be adept in the practice of open-mindedness. But, when we reflect on all of our current beliefs, are we truly always considering counterarguments? We probably can think of several occasions where we have let our open-mindedness slip. This, like many things in life, is not something we will ever fully master, it is rather an attitude that requires continuous attention and practice.

"When the student is ready, the teacher appears."

All of this is closely related to one’s ego. Ego is something that is always lurking nearby, and it can easily alter your attitude if you’re unaware of its presence. The wisest thing you can do is to set your pride aside and be open, as well as make yourself vulnerable, to new ideas. We will always remain students, so be mindful of your ego, be mindful of your ignorance, and try to learn from every opportunity.

We should, however, not blindly believe everything one says, not even when the other is more knowledgeable on the subject. Their wisdom is no proof of their truthfulness. Also, we should not be ignorant, and, instead, apply this skepticism to ourselves as well. Be careful with the information that is given, but also revise the knowledge you’ve accepted to be true. Don’t be afraid to question your beliefs.

You will never be completely certain on most of your opinions, but this is not really needed. You can still remain decisive without certainty. Having set principles or values to live by is extremely helpful in this regard. But, know that being decisive does not mean that you have the all right answers nor have full knowledge of the matter.

Having said all of this, let’s put into practice the following quote:

“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius

Just as buying books does not make you a reader, and getting a promotion does not make you a manager, gained knowledge does not make you a scholar. You’re still the same you, the purchase, promotion, or wisdom did not change you. You still have to put in the work. The best way to convince yourself or others of who or what you are is not by talk, but by action. If you wish to inspire people, do not talk about how productive you are, do not talk about how wise you are, let them see it for themselves.