We are very emotional creatures, and our, mostly uncontrollable, feelings can change the way we think and behave. Whenever we decide that it is time to finally start writing that book or start that workout schedule, the next morning we might feel way less motivated. When we choose to change or when we set up goals that require effort, we usually allow our feelings to take over and let our mind contemplate whether it is worth it. Instead of immediately giving up on the idea, stick with it for a while, set up a certain routine or habit, and at least give it a chance.

The same goes, somewhat in contrast, to having principles. Yes, we should try to be open-minded and question ourselves as well as our motives and actions. I’m all for it. I spend quite a lot of time on self-reflection. But, while we continuously change, our principles shouldn’t be too volatile. These beliefs allow you to make the decisions you will be less likely to regret. It is, however, especially important to allow criticism to these beliefs. This will make you more knowledgeable about the subject, and that is, in these cases in particular, most critical.

The reason I chose to talk about this topic is because of a change I recently went through myself.
I have been a very passionate gamer for nearly my whole life (note the word "gamer" which, in a way, identifies a person). But, I had decided to quit playing video-games as I felt that it did not really contribute to my values or goals. It was mainly a highly enjoyable time-sink.

So, is gaming bad if you enjoy spending your time this way? To a certain extent, it isn’t. Most activities aren’t too bad as long as we do them in moderation. I still did my chores, went to work, exercised, and even learned about things that could help me for my job during some of my spare time. So, all things considered, it has never been truly unhealthy. And, I do trust that playing video-games taught me a lot of things, as well as helped create the person I am today. But, in my opinion, the time and effort required do not uphold its benefits. Especially since there have been times that addiction certainly was not too far off. Times when nothing but playing a particular game mattered much. That danger or susceptibility also made me want to distance myself from it.

Other hobbies, activities or jobs can also be addictive. For example, if I am really invested in a book, sometimes I want nothing more than reading the next chapter or even completely finish the book. The main difference, to me, with that and video-games is that, for one, the urge isn’t as strong. And, secondly, when it’s over, it’s over. You can obviously re-read the book or there might even be a sequel you’d want to get into, but the book itself does not attempt to keep you hooked the same way games do.
Whether I will never play video-games ever again is something rather impossible to tell. For now, however, I am going to try and stick to this goal.

Don’t be afraid of change, be open to set up new values or goals. But, also allow some thought and time before you discard one.